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He had no idea Marilyn was transgender.

By age 4, Marilyn already knew she was meant to live her life as a girl, her parents say, though she was assigned the male gender at birth. Her parents, Andrew and Chelsa Morrison of Grapevine, had seen the signs as early as Marilyn could talk.

Various signs that Marilyn exhibited from ages 3 to 5 showed her parents that she wasn’t a typical boy. Putting boys’ clothes on Marilyn was a sure way to produce temper tantrums. She had frequent questions about why she has a boy’s body.

Experts say young children can begin to experience signs of gender dysphoria, a conflict between a person’s physical gender and gender identity, as early as age 2 or 3.

The outbursts made Andrew and Chelsa wonder about their child’s gender identity. The Morrisons consulted gender therapists to help them. When professionals confirmed that their young child was transgender, they thought they were alone.

“We thought we were the only ones with a kid this young,” Chelsa and her husband recall.

In fact, they were far from it.

Support groups for transgender kids and their families have expanded in North Texas. DFW Trans Kids Families started with fewer than 15 families and has grown to a network of more than 200 families in the last two years.

When the Morrisons moved from Denver back to North Texas seven years ago for a job, they hoped it’d be a good place to raise Marilyn and her older brother, Miles.

But in those years, the Morrisons say, they’ve faced family rejection, bullying and public school bathroom debates. During a special session of the Texas Legislature this month, lawmakers are considering a “bathroom bill” that would restrict the public facilities transgender people can use.

Marilyn’s parents didn’t imagine raising their daughter would bring such backlash.

“I thought it would be so much simpler,” Chelsa said, holding back tears. “But I will fight until I take my last breath.”

As a toddler, Marilyn reached for girly items every time she could. While at a family friend’s house, she was fascinated with the daughter’s dolls and the clothes. Hand me downs became Marilyn’s favorite possessions, like her pink Ugg boots and a Ralph Lauren wool dress.

From ages 3 to 6, Marilyn would sometimes dress as a girl, except in some public settings and at school. She still went by her old name around grandparents and other extended family.

Some parents of classmates and teachers empathized with the family’s struggles. When Marilyn started school,
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Chelsa would let teachers know that their soon to be student was not a gender conforming child, but more “girly.”

A teacher, who knew exactly what Chelsa was trying to say, openly told her, “Don’t worry, I have a transgender child, too.”

Those moments brought relief during the beginning of Marilyn’s transition.

Coming out to the extended family became another stress point for the Morrisons, and disagreements about what gender identity meant brought division with some relatives.

“I come from a family where it’s ‘Let’s not talk about it. Let’s not address the problem,'”Andrew said.

Friends, they say, have been the most supportive through the process.

“My friends are our family now. They’re our tribe,” Chelsa said.

Marilyn’s transition became a larger, more public part of her life in 2015. She picked her new name, continued to grow out her hair and lived life as any 7 year old girl would.

Public awareness of transgender children and young teenagers has risen because of celebrities like Caitlyn Jenner, Chaz Bono, LaVerne Cox and Jazz Jennings, and it’s encouraged more families to speak out.

“Our families are no different than anybody else’s. If people would just understand that,” said Melissa Ballard, co founder of DFW Trans Kids Families. “I think a lot of the fear and rhetoric come from people who don’t know someone who is transgender.”

Coming out to the family was hard, but transitioning around classmates and teachers who had seen Marilyn as a boy made third grade especially difficult.

Kids on the playground would yell at her “You’re a boy! You’re a boy!” during recess. Restroom trips would be equally humiliating because the school’s rules on the bathroom constantly changed, Chelsa said, depending on which administrator Marilyn encountered.
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